I was brave this weekend. I walked into a party, by myself, knowing that I probably wouldn’t know a single person there. I was invited by someone I’d been trying to connect with for ages (she was the host). But other than her, someone I’d never actually met, I had no idea who might be there.
Somehow I mustered the courage to walk myself inside and brave the polite little crowd and… I didn’t die.
I gotta admit it was scary for me. As comfortable (and happy) as I am doing most things alone: eating out, going to the movies, traveling – the one thing that’s always scared the crap out of me is parties. I’m fine walking into a party by myself as long as I know there’ll be at least one or two people there that I know. But a party full of strangers has always been my achilles heel. The one activity I couldn’t do alone.
Until this weekend, anyway.
But I digress. That isn’t even what this post is about. One of the nice people I met while I was there was a young man who’d recently relocated here from Seattle. I asked him what had prompted his move and he said that in Seattle, everyone was coupled up by the time they were 27 and as a single 32 year-old he was feeling out of place. He decided to move to New York because it was such a great place for single people.
I have no idea if what he said about Seattle is true. I’ve been there a few times, but never “experienced” the dating scene. But I’d imagine there are lots of places in the country and the world where people are just more couple/marriage minded than New York.
Anyway, since then I’ve been thinking about what he said and poking around online to see if there’s any evidence to back it up. Forbes did a piece last year where they ranked NYC as the number 1 city for singles. Single Minded Women did one more recently where they ranked the Top 10 Cities for Single Women. NYC placed 3 (Boston was number 1).
So, I guess, statistically speaking NYC is a pretty good place to be single. There certainly are a lot of us here. Which leads me to my obvious follow up point. There are so many of us here. So many. So much choice (yeah, I’m back on this again).
Choice is good. I like choice. Love choice. And I’ve certainly enjoyed my single life here, in the city. But yeah, I do think we NYC singles are more than a little spoiled for choice. Not that I’d have it any other way.
Tags: nyc, single, single women, Spoiled