I really don’t have that much to say about last night’s date with Mr. Midwest.
It was our 6th date (I think, maybe it was the 7th?). After some last minute changes (scheduling issues, overcrowded restaurants) we ended up at a great local wine bar that we’ve been to before.
Tonight was probably the most we’ve ever really talked. Well, tonight was probably the first time I really talked – about myself. It’s not something I do. Let new people in. I have my stock stories, the things I feel safe talking about. But I tend to leave out whole chunks of me until I get to know someone well.
I figured maybe it would be helpful if I opened up a little bit. And learned more about him…
So what did I learn? Well, for starters, we really are creatures from 2 entirely different planets. It’s not just a NYC – Midwest thing. There are so many differences that I wouldn’t even know where to start to list them.
The thing is, I’m not sure that matters. Because I’m still figuring out the important stuff (what matters most in life to him/what are his values – because I’ve learned that those are the true dealbreakers). You see, as different as he and I are, we’re alike in that we both keep people at a distance. And maybe that’s why I’m just not feeling it? Because I can’t figure him out.
Anyway, I’ve decided to take a friend’s advice: When in doubt – do nothing. In this case I interpret it to mean, don’t do anything to screw up this potential relationship. Just keep seeing him and eventually I’ll know. One way or the other.
Tags: date, wine, wine bar