So about those 3 good-ish first dates last week. All 3 guys asked me out for second dates. And I said yes to all 3.
But then the plans fell through with one of them. We had concert tickets (Joao Gilberto at Carnegie Hall) but the show was cancelled. I declined his suggestion that we go for dinner instead, as I was exhausted. And then we had tentative plans for the weekend that never worked out – completely my fault. Truth is, I chose downtime over him and I don’t regret that choice.
I had a perfectly pleasant second date on Saturday night – the classic dinner and a movie date (he bought the tickets in advance and made dinner reservations, bonus points for good planning). We had fun and I enjoyed his company, but I couldn’t truthfully see him as a romantic partner. He’s just so buttoned up and formal. And I’m so…not. Really, really not. He sent me an email the next morning, which I replied to about a day later (my reply was positive, just not enthusiastically so). And I haven’t heard from him since. I’m not sad.
Bachelor number is the Younger Man. He and I have now had 3 dates. The other night he cooked me dinner (bbq on his terrace) and things got a bit more intimate between us. And no, I didn’t spend the night. He asked if I would and I said no.
I like him. But I also feel that I should like him more than I do. He is everything I’ve been asking for in a guy. Kind, caring, thoughtful. And he’s made more of an attempt to get to know me as a person in 3 dates than, well, any guy I’ve dated in years. Actually, it’s a little freaky, having a man I barely know take so much interest in my life. I’m not always sure how to respond and I’m sure I come off as a bit of a freak.
Maybe, after so many years of dating emotionally distant, controlling jerks I need time to adjust to being with someone like him? Someone good. Maybe that bigger feeling of like will happen when the shock wears off?
The younger man knows I’m a blogger, and knows I blog about dating and relationships. And he says he has no interest in knowing my pen name or the name of the blog (and I choose to believe him when he says he hasn’t looked for it/found it – for now). I don’t really see this making my blogging life any more or less complicated, as I’ve always been careful to not write anything that might upset anyone I like.
Anyway, he’s away for the long weekend and we’ve exchanged the obligatory “have a great weekend tweets”. I don’t see him as my new (potential) boyfriend. No where near that yet. I plan to continue the manshopping and dating, following through on other plans I have. And I’m going to assume he’s doing the same.
This is how we play the game…
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