I’m not saying that I wish that things turned out differently. I don’t. There’s not a single relationship that I look back on and think, If only... But, I do look back and think, I wish I hadn’t wasted so much energy on being angry.
Which reminds me of this quote. I can’t remember the first time I heard it, but lots of google sources attribute it to Ann Landers. I’m 99.99% certain I didn’t hear it from Ann Landers.
Resentment is allowing someone to live rent-free in a room in your head.
I’ll admit to giving away a lot of rent-free space over the years. Space that could’ve been used for so many better things. Remembering people’s names. Song lyrics. Movies quotes. Hell, anything would be more productive.
But instead I’ve chosen to hold on to resentment. For days, weeks, months… even years.
So, like I said, I’ve been thinking about it, lately. I know it’s one of my major character flaws (and by no means my only one). And I know that I’ll be a happier, healthier person if I can learn to let go. And meditate. And give up sweets. And work out 3 times a week.
I have no answers. No pithy advice to end the post with. This is just me pointing out an obvious flaw in my character. One that I’d like to think I can grow out of. But only time will tell.
Tags: advice, anger, character, quote, relationship, song