I’m a sucker for certain types of articles. Claim to have a good explanation for why otherwise reasonable people do unreasonable things and I’ll give you a click. Even if I don’t expect you to have a good answer.
I’ll read your post for the entertainment value alone.
So yesterday I was thrilled to see this post from The Love Consultants, “Why Smart Women Fall for Jerks.” There wasn’t anything really new there, but it was a fun way to spend a minute of my life.
The post reminded me of a really dumb guy I dated nearly 2 decades ago. He was really, really dumb. But that was fine with me. In a lot of ways, in fact, it was the answer to my prayers. Just prior to him, I’d had this odd, tumultuous flirtation with a friend of a friend. And the friend of a friend was a smart guy. Mr. Smart-friend-of-a-friend was always mean to me. It felt like he was trying to put me in my place. If you know what I mean?
After battling it out with Mr. Smart-friend-of-a-friend it was a relief to meet someone who was dumb and kind.
Anyway, one day my mom asked me to describe the not-so-bright new guy in my life to her. And what I said was, “He’s too stupid to realize how smart I am.”
Yes, I really said that. To my mom. About a guy I was dating.
And it was true. Also, I always assumed that he was so sweet and kind to me because he didn’t see my intelligence as a threat. Because he didn’t see my intelligence. There was no need for him to constantly cut me down.
Which leads us in a roundabout way to this week’s poll. It’s been ages since I’ve done a poll. I’ve been totally slacking.
I’m dividing this one up by gender. Please be honest, it’s only fun when people are honest.
Women Only, Please
Men Only, Please
Tags: friends, guy, honesty, poll, Smart, Women