Here’s a random thought to start your week off with a WTF?: Some people claim to be “in love” many times during their lives. Elizabeth Taylor is an obvious example although I can think of several people in their 30s who’ve already used, “in love” to describe at least a half-dozen relationships, or more. While other people only fall in love once or twice (or never).
Why the disparity? Are the people in the latter group, those for whom romantic love is rare, doing something that prevents them from falling in love? Do they have emotional barriers? Deep psychological issues?
Or are the people who repeatedly fall in love (with new people) just more open to the experience and/or more aggressively seeking it out?
Perhaps this is not an either/or question. Maybe there is a bit of both going on. Or a lot of both.
There’s a reason this is on my mind. Not too long ago, someone told me that he was, “in love with love.” Ever since I’ve been pondering what that might mean, in practical terms. A person who’s in love with love would be, I’m guessing, anxious and uncomfortable without someone to love. S/he would be more likely to want/need a partner. And to focus on that romantic relationship as a priority. I’m guessing.
So, are they also likely to see love where others might not? Would a person who is ‘in love with love’ be more likely to be ‘in love’ with a person they’ve just met, instead of merely infatuated?
Obviously, I have a side here. I am so NOT in love with love. I have experienced it. And do hope to one day fall in love again. And if that happens, I’d like to think I’ll do a better job of getting it right. You know, fall for someone more appropriate, take it slow, all that good stuff. But rather than being anxious to fall in love again, I’m cautious with my heart. I don’t necessarily see love as a great big party that I’m dying to get into.
Not sure any of that makes any sense. Perhaps I need to make a chart to represent the seemingly random distribution of love in the world?
Tags: love, WTF