I’m a chronic insomniac (and I’ve tried all kinds of things, many prescribed by doctors, to deal with this). One of the things I do to cope is to lie in bed and listen to podcasts. Sometimes, I’ll drift off to sleep. Other times, I’ll just lie in bed for hours and listen. But at least my body is at rest and my eyes are closed, which is better than me sitting up and staring at a computer.
So, the other night I was listening to a podcast on the economy (not unusual for me, as many of my faves are on politics or economics). Specifically, they were talking about the long-term unemployed. There are big issues for people who’ve been unemployed for a long-time. In some ways, it seems, the longer someone has been unemployed the harder it is for them to get a job. Not going to get too deeply into this…
Anyway, this got me to thinking about the ‘long-term single.’ Like me. I used to think of myself as someone who was in between relationships. But not anymore. It’s been too long. Now I’m just single. Long-term single. And I know that there’s a stigma attached to that.
How do I know?
I know, because I know people (both women and men) who say they’d prefer to date people who are divorced (over never-marrieds) because they fear the never-married are incapable of commitment. And I know because I’ve had people grill me over my never-married status, as if being never-married at 40 is akin to being defective.
And, I’ll admit, now that it’s been soooo long since I’ve been in a relationship I have a hard time imagining myself with someone.
Does that mean I can’t meet someone, connect on some deep level and enter into a good, strong and functional relationship? No. Not at all. I’m capable of those things. But I will admit that the longer I stay single, the harder it might be.
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