I live in my head.
OK. I live in a smallish one bedroom apartment in Manhattan. Alone. And I work at home. Alone. That’s my physical reality. But really, I live IN. MY. HEAD.
All that alone time doesn’t spell loneliness. Not so much. I’ve mastered the alone without being lonely thing. What it does spell is me
sometimes fixating on things, usually negative things. And then holding on to those thoughts forever. For EVER.
Which is why it’s important for me to get outside perspectives and force myself to get out and do things that might make me uncomfortable. Even though the little voice in my head is saying mean things. Because the little voice in my head is full of shit. Or maybe not. Maybe it’s smart but it’s not the only opinion in the whole damn world.
And so… not so smooth segue… I was so freaking excited to hear about these new events that Match.com is organizing called Stir Events. Because I haven’t been getting out much. Haven’t been dating at all. This is actually the longest I’ve gone dateless in… ??? Too damn long. And I miss it. But I want to try something new. I’m so over online dating (for now), speed dating makes my skin crawl (sorry but it does) and most singles events are poorly produced and/or aimed at youngins.
I think it’s cool that Match.com is entering the events space. They’re the largest dating site, with millions of members and they’re diving in with both feet. This month alone, they’re throwing 189 events in more than 62 markets! That’s millions of people who’ll have the opportunity to meet. They’ll be doing interest-based events such as cooking classes, wine and tequila tastings, dance lessons, bowling nights… hell, there’s gotta be a couple/few I’d like to attend coming up soon in NYC. And, if I just want to go low-key and check out a happy hour, they’re doing happy hour events that are free and open to both registered and subscribed Match.com members.
My favorite thing about this – each Stir event is customized through a group matching algorithms in terms of age, gender and interests so that singles will be attending events with like singles. So we’ll be somewhat pre-sorted by demographics. Which makes me very happy for 2 big reasons. 1) All the men in the room will theoretically be interested in dating women in their early 40s. 2) Unlike online dating, no one will see my age at first glance and so guys might have a chance to talk to me before deciding I’m “too old.” They can choose to reject me for some other reason.
Anyway, like I said, I really am psyched. I’ve probably left out a bunch of the important details. You can learn more about the Stir Events and sign up online under the Events tab on the Match.com homepage. I plan on attending one (or more) soon and so I’ll tell you how it goes.
Tags: Match, singles