Real stories about dating and relationships in New York City. Truth is more interesting than fiction.

Speaking of Sex Toys…

Seriously, these things just show up in my inbox. And this was just too, wow, not to share. My longtime readers know I’m a total data geek. So much fun info: 20% of adults report indulging in kinky play; 20% of men report using vibrators; Alaska buys the most sex toys per capita…  Sarah Palin […]

He Planned to Stay the Night, but Didn’t Bring a Toothbrush

Human Beings are odd creatures. They are. We are. I saw the Sunday Boy, aka The Younger Man, this weekend.  On Sunday (go figure). We mixed it up a bit. Instead of my heading out to his ‘hood and then us going out to dinner (our norm), he came over to my place and we […]

It’s Not About Sex

The other night, while was lying in bed, I suddenly realized that what I miss, more than anything, is spending the whole night tangled up with someone. Held. Knowing that just hours away there was more sex to come. It’s not the sex I miss.  To tell the truth, I’ve been having sex pretty regularly, […]

Do You Spend the Night?

A long, long time ago I remember having a conversation with a friend.  I honestly can’t remember who I was talking to, but I remember what we both said. She, “I fuck who I want to fuck. I don’t get into this whole boyfriend thing.” Now mind you, this was way back in the 90s, […]

He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla – Is the Relationship Doomed? (with thanks to Em & Lo)

I’m sure I’ve mentioned before that Em & Lo is one of my favorite sex, dating & relationships sites.  Well last week they ran this letter in their Your Call section. Dear Em & Lo, I recently started dating a wonderful man. He’s smart, and interesting, and handsome and the sex has been delightful. But […]